The best things lovers say to one another 😉
- I’m sorry
No matter how much you love someone, everyone makes mistakes. You’ll be insensitive because you’re tired, you’ll hurt your partner’s feelings, someday you’ll screw up. It can’t be helped. But it’s how we deal with our mistakes that matters. Even if you’re convinced you’re in the right, sometimes it matters more to make amends than prove your innocence.
I love you
People show love in different ways. You might have heard of the five love languages – time, gifts, serving, touch, and words. If you show love by giving your time, you could say that with your quality time you are telling someone you love them. But your partner might find it hard to recognise this, and just be waiting for you to say the all-important words. Even though we may know we are loved, most people still need to hear it. Say it, and say it often.
What’s on your mind?
No matter how long you’ve been together or how well you know each other, you cannot read someone’s mind. You might assume that if something was wrong, they would tell you. Some things can be left unsaid, but others develop into bigger problems, scarier issues, or deeper hurts. And if you ask “what are you thinking” and the answer you get is “I’m trying to remember what I had for lunch”, you’ve lost nothing!
In a relationship, you don’t need to live in each other’s debt. Doing things for each other is one of the ways we show that we love each other. But if you don’t feel that your efforts are appreciated, over time you may begin to feel resentful. Don’t take each other for granted. Say thank you, and mean it. Appreciating each other is a powerful way to keep your relationship strong. Remember why you got together in the first place, and say thank you not just for what they do, but for who they are.
This article was published with permission from Focus on the Family Malaysia.
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