Marital bliss demands a great deal of obligation & commitment!
In March 2014, actress Gwyneth Paltrow and musician Chris Martin (Coldplay frontman) announced their “conscious uncoupling” after 10 years of marriage. “The belief structure is the all-or-nothing idea that when we marry, it’s for life. The idea of being married to one person for life is too much pressure for anyone,” says Paltrow’s mentor Dr Habib Sadeghi and Dr Sherry Sami on the concept of “Conscious Uncoupling”. In this day and age, do you find yourself agreeing with these sentiments? Couples who look upon marriage as something worthy of the greatest honour and respect tend to be the couples who will stick together over the long haul. They affirm marriage as the cornerstone of the family and of human society as a whole, regarding it as an unbreakable commitment to love and service toward one another.
Walking down the aisle comes with great responsibility & commitment / Pix: LifeLoveAndMarriage.com
Couples who are committed to one another:
- Value mutual devotion
- Value loyalty
- Value fidelity
In practical terms, they are committed to one another. This isn’t to say that they’re starry-eyed or unrealistic. On the contrary, they are under no illusions about the difficulties that stand in their way. They admit that they are imperfect people living in an imperfect world, but at the same time they have made up their minds to see the ups and downs as all having their place in marriage. Couples who last are inspired by a particular vision of marriage. It’s this vision that keeps them going through thick and thin! And the secret to a great and successful marriage? These couples see their journey together as a grand adventure. There is an old saying that goes, “It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages”.
Couples who go the distance are usually adventurers of a similar spirit. They believe that lifelong, thriving marriage is possible. They expect the journey to include hardships, dangers, and rocky passages as well as mountaintop views and ocean vistas. Because of this, they are not afraid to press on together, taking life as it comes and living each day to the full because the one they love is by their side. Find an existing marriage vow and memorize it. When you have memorized it, say it to your spouse. Renew your marriage vows if you already have one.
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