Ultimate secrets to lifelong love and bliss in a ‘happily-ever-after’ marriage 😉
For anyone contemplating marriage, here are six straightforward recommendations that will increase the chance of living happily ever after. Don’t marry someone who has characteristics that you feel are intolerable. Behaviour runs in deep channels that were cut during early childhood, and it is very difficult to alter them. Therefore, if you can’t live with a characteristic that shows up during courtship, it may plague you for the rest of your life.
Do not marry impulsively! Remember, the dating relationship is designed to conceal information, not reveal it. Both partners put on their best faces for the one they seek to attract. They guard secrets that might be a turn-off. I suggest that you take at least a year to get beyond the façade and into the inner character of the person.
Do not move in with a person before marriage. To do so is a bad idea as it undermines a relationship and often leads to divorce. Studies show that couples who live together prior to marriage have a fifty percent greater chance of divorce than those who don’t – based on 50 years of data. Those who cohabit also have less satisfying and more unstable marriages. Why? Researchers found that those who had lived together later regretted having “violated their moral standards,” and “felt a loss of personal freedom exit the back door.”
Don’t get married too young. Being a family requires some characteristics that come with maturity, such as selflessness, stability, and self-control. It’s best to wait for their arrival. Finally, the ultimate secret of lifelong love is this: Simply put, the stability of marriage is a by-product of an iron-willed determination to make it work. If you choose to marry, enter into that covenant with the resolve to remain committed to each other for life.
This article was published with permission from Focus on the Family Malaysia. If you liked this article and would like to go deeper, we have some helpful resources at www.family.org.my 😉