Expressions of love is the ultimate bond 😉
How can you make sure your child knows that you love him or her – with no small print included in the offer? Here are some suggestions:
Parental love knows no bounds or boundaries – a blessing to a child’s welfare and well-being (PIX)
- Say it, even if it seems obvious. No matter how many times you’ve told your child, “I love you,” keep it up. He may not respond, he may (as he gets older) roll his eyes and mumble “Yeah, yeah,” or even look queasy. Remember that children keep asking, verbally or not, “Do you love me?” Make sure you answer them clearly and often.
- Don’t stop with words. As your children get older, they never outgrow the desire for physical expressions of affection – a hug, a kiss, a pat on the back, a shoulder rub. They may not want you to do much of this in front of their friends, but like all human beings, they still crave loving, appropriate touch. Being the major supplier of the need is one of your highest privileges as a parent.
- Don’t save love for special occasions. Purposely or not, some parents withhold expressing love until their children “earn” it. An underachieving student might get frowns until the report card improves. Another might hear praise only when all the right notes are hit at the piano recital. Make it abundantly clear that your love has no strings attached by expressing it when it is “undeserved.”
- Hate the sin but love the sinner. Let’s face it: Children can be exasperating. They can be rebellious, stubborn, and obnoxious – just like adults. If we don’t distinguish between the person and the behaviour, we can easily wind up expressing love only during those times when children are at their best.
This article was published with permission from Focus on the Family Malaysia. If you liked this article and would like to go deeper, we have some helpful resources at www.family.org.my