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Foundations of A Life-Long Marriage

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Foundations of A Life-Long Marriage – by Louis McBurney, M.D.

 

 

Marriage is an everlasting commitment and partnership of LOVE…

 

 

There are many principles that, if practiced, can help you build a solid marital foundation. Here are some of those key principles:-

 

 

Commitment

“Commitment” is not a popular word in our culture. Our society emphasizes individual rights, personal freedom and mobility. The idea of giving these up because of dedication to another person or loyalty to a relationship makes a lot of people feel trapped.

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But I don’t think you can have it both ways. You can’t build a divorce-proof marriage and remain unbending toward your personal rights. That doesn’t mean you give up all your freedoms or choices, but it does mean your commitment to the relationship supersedes your individual rights. Commitment means putting your spouse’s needs above your own.

 

 

Communication

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Someone once said, “Communication is to love as blood is to the body.” Take the blood out of the body and it dies. Take communication away and a relationship dies.

The kind of communication I’m talking about isn’t just exchanging information; it’s sharing feelings, hurts, joys. That means getting below the surface and examining the hows and whys of daily life.

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Like conflict resolution, communication is a learned skill — and it’s often hard work. Time must be reserved for meaningful conversations. Taking walks and going out for dinner are conversation inducers that keep love alive.

 

 

Patience

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We live in an instant world — fast foods, ATMs, computer access to information, direct dial communication all over the world.

 

The problem is we can’t heat up a marriage in the microwave. Relationships just don’t work that way. Marriage, especially takes time and care to become really beautiful. That means learning patience.

 

Beyond the day-to-day quirks and foibles you must accept, patience is needed for the long haul. It may take years for you to develop the kind of relationship that’s satisfying to both of you. A lot of people don’t have the patience to wait around for things to evolve. But if you’re willing to sit tight and hang in there, your marriage can be fantastic.

 

 

Strong Beliefs

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We’re more than a bundle of feelings & physical sensations. There is an inner core of our being, an eternal part of who we are, that represents the deepest, most permanent aspect of marriage. It’s the shared morals & values that hold husband and wife together. This solid foundation is a fortress against the storms of life…

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This article was published with permission from Focus on the Family Malaysia. For more information, please contact:

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Focus on the Family’s 90-second audio program is aired over TRAXX FM at 7.15 am Mondays to Fridays.

 

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